Acceptance, Career, Habits, Happiness, Life Enahancing, Meaningful Work

Showing up for work, showing up for life! 

Showing up for work
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If I asked you if you were happy at work, felt engaged, challenged and fully involved in your job – what would you say? The chances are that you would say ‘no’ since research shows that over half of the working population are unhappy with what they do.  Just think about that for a moment, one in two of us would rather be somewhere else!

Given how much of our life work takes up and the knock-on effect that such dissatisfaction will have on our personal relationships, this is a very dim picture indeed.  When we fail to ‘show up’ at work, we are also failing to ‘show up’ for life. We are checking out at key points in our day and our week, to the extent that we are failing to be truly alive.

Showing up is about bring our whole self to a situation. Our mind, our body and our energy. When we are fully present, we can take the time to observe deeply and get a much greater understanding of our situation. We can also learn to actively listen and stay grounded in the present moment when work pressure builds.

When we do a job we love, it’s easy to show up for work, putting our best foot forward, a smile on our face and enthusiasm into our tasks.  We feel in sync with our work and enjoy the time we spend at it. The cost on our time and lifestyle is offset by the benefits we receive doing something we love.

When life is in sync in this way, we find everything is lighter, more enjoyable and easier to achieve. Stress is merely fleeting moments, that pass when we achieve our goals and we are able to see the benefits of bringing our whole self to the workplace.

Yet if we feel out of sync with our work, unappreciated and under-valued, its far harder to show up in that way. We find ourselves becoming resentful, disengaged and unwilling to do the tasks that our job requires of us. Whilst our instinct is to withdraw, perhaps become surly or simply check out, all that does is make a bad situation worse.

We can fall into misguided thinking, such as believing that when we fail to show up and when we become disengaged, we are hurting our employers.  In reality the only person who gets hurt is ourselves.

Organisations rarely feel the benefits of such resistance and we create some very unhelpful habits in our working life that can have a corrosive effect on our personal lives. Resentment has a way of seeping into all of our interactions and leaving a bitter taste for others to swallow.

The importance of showing up for work is more about one’s own self esteem, than it is to do with the work situation we find ourselves in. If you are stuck in a job that is not satisfying or no longer suits you, not showing up for work will not change that fact, but it will certainly make it feel harder.

The benefits of showing up for work include:

  • Putting your best efforts into your work each and every day will help you to reach a level of satisfaction about your own skills and experience.
  • Having a healthy work ethic and maintaining good interpersonal relationships, even in a poor work climate, means that you can show up for interviews with prospective employers in a positive and engaging frame of mind
  • Showing up for work allows you to act with integrity, think clearly and navigate through difficult situations in a way that supports your long term growth and career goals.

 

Some simple ways you can show up for work, whatever your circumstances:

 

  1. Smile.  This is one of the simplest and easiest ways to build strong and effective relationships.  Even if others around you are not given to smiling, greet everyone every day with a smile.   You’ll find it’s contagious.
  2. Be a problem solver – not a problem creator.  Every time you come up with a difficult situation, take it as an opportunity to learn new skills and be creative. These are great life skills and will serve you well in any work setting.
  3. Do what you do to the best of your ability. Even if your work is boring, or you have outgrown your role and are feeling undervalued, focus on what you can do, rather than allowing your ego to take you down the garden path of ‘should be doing this’ or ‘could be doing that’.  The magic of doing what you can in the present moment is that you will get noticed for being a conscientious and reliable person.  Great traits to get you promoted, or to demonstrate to a new employer.

 

Remember that the driver of your career is you, so taking the time to see the value in every day will help your real skills and abilities to shine through.  If you would like to see more tips and tricks, visit www.findyourjoyfullife.com, where you will find many more tips and tricks.

Career Reframe is a unique program to allow you to transform your career into a life affirming adventure and get paid for your unique skills. If you would like a free consultation on your career email mary@findyourjoyfullife.com.

Career, Change, Personal Transformation, Soul Purpose

Are these career myths holding you back?

frustrationOne of the many things that I am asked to cover in my well-being and stress management workshops, is how people can learn to stress less and enjoy life more.
There are many ways that this can happen and I focus a lot on mindfulness as one of the most effective ways to reduce stress. Yet this will only take you so far, if you are in the wrong job, or the wrong career or some deep down wish to be doing something that differs greatly from your current reality.
If yes, then you are not alone. Being desperately unhappy at work is at epidemic proportions, with one in two of us feeling undervalued and underpaid.
But it doesn’t have to be like that. Once you were full of ideas of how you could change the world. loved Monday mornings and got a buzz out of what you did. So what happened?
When I started working, my poorly educated, low-income parents had little expectations of what I could achieve. They wanted me to get a job, any job. Before too long I was job hopping from one poorly paid position to the next. In 10 years I had got three degrees, had held directorships in different companies and now work as an international transformation consultant, working with global companies.
I learnt how to transform my career, by making the same mistakes that everyone else makes, by learning how to turn them around to my advantage.  You see I realised that many of us are holding on to a myth about our career and what it is possible to achieve.

The top three  myths that might hold you back are:
Myth #1- Believing your sum total is defined by what my current employer pays you. So many of us believe what we get in terms of our current role is what we are worth. Well, here’s the thing. If you bring a unique antique to a car boot sale, you will only get the bargain hunter hawkers making a ridiculously low offer for your priceless piece. It’s the same with our career, unless we take our uniqueness to the right place where it is a good match, we are unlikely to find someone recognises our worth.
Myth #2 – The economy is not good out there, I have to take what I can get. The difficulty with this thinking is two-fold. The first is that the economy can never improve if we stop believing it can be better. The second is that unless we find some greater creativity, innovation and personal power to bring to our work, the economy can never get better. Your unique skills are part of the solution, not the problem, so don’t allow the economy’s current health
Myth #3 – There’s nothing special about me. There’s lots more people out there who are better qualified or experienced than I am. There may be lots of people out there, but none of them bring your uniqueness. We shy away from seeing ourselves as unique in our modern world, yet it is the only thing we can rely on for sure. That our voice, our view of the world, our experiences are unique to each and everyone of us. Employers, particularly good employers don’t want a collection of skills and experiences. They are looking for someone who can fit their culture, can bring ideas, and great team dynamics. They want someone who cares about what the company is trying to do and will go the extra mile to help them achieve it. Years of experience won’t guarantee that, but your passion, drive and enthusiasm will. So let your unique voice shine through.

So as you review your current position and how well this serves you, check in with your own beliefs and mindset. How does these three myths speak to you? Do you have roadblocks that are stopping you from finding the career you love?

If you would like to book a free career breakthrough coaching session, to find out the top three career challenges holding you back and the one thing you could do turn it around,  complete the form below and I’ll be delighted to talk to you further.