One of the many things that I am asked to cover in my well-being and stress management workshops, is how people can learn to stress less and enjoy life more.
There are many ways that this can happen and I focus a lot on mindfulness as one of the most effective ways to reduce stress. Yet this will only take you so far, if you are in the wrong job, or the wrong career or some deep down wish to be doing something that differs greatly from your current reality.
If yes, then you are not alone. Being desperately unhappy at work is at epidemic proportions, with one in two of us feeling undervalued and underpaid.
But it doesn’t have to be like that. Once you were full of ideas of how you could change the world. loved Monday mornings and got a buzz out of what you did. So what happened?
When I started working, my poorly educated, low-income parents had little expectations of what I could achieve. They wanted me to get a job, any job. Before too long I was job hopping from one poorly paid position to the next. In 10 years I had got three degrees, had held directorships in different companies and now work as an international transformation consultant, working with global companies.
I learnt how to transform my career, by making the same mistakes that everyone else makes, by learning how to turn them around to my advantage. You see I realised that many of us are holding on to a myth about our career and what it is possible to achieve.
The top three myths that might hold you back are:
Myth #1- Believing your sum total is defined by what my current employer pays you. So many of us believe what we get in terms of our current role is what we are worth. Well, here’s the thing. If you bring a unique antique to a car boot sale, you will only get the bargain hunter hawkers making a ridiculously low offer for your priceless piece. It’s the same with our career, unless we take our uniqueness to the right place where it is a good match, we are unlikely to find someone recognises our worth.
Myth #2 – The economy is not good out there, I have to take what I can get. The difficulty with this thinking is two-fold. The first is that the economy can never improve if we stop believing it can be better. The second is that unless we find some greater creativity, innovation and personal power to bring to our work, the economy can never get better. Your unique skills are part of the solution, not the problem, so don’t allow the economy’s current health
Myth #3 – There’s nothing special about me. There’s lots more people out there who are better qualified or experienced than I am. There may be lots of people out there, but none of them bring your uniqueness. We shy away from seeing ourselves as unique in our modern world, yet it is the only thing we can rely on for sure. That our voice, our view of the world, our experiences are unique to each and everyone of us. Employers, particularly good employers don’t want a collection of skills and experiences. They are looking for someone who can fit their culture, can bring ideas, and great team dynamics. They want someone who cares about what the company is trying to do and will go the extra mile to help them achieve it. Years of experience won’t guarantee that, but your passion, drive and enthusiasm will. So let your unique voice shine through.
So as you review your current position and how well this serves you, check in with your own beliefs and mindset. How does these three myths speak to you? Do you have roadblocks that are stopping you from finding the career you love?
If you would like to book a free career breakthrough coaching session, to find out the top three career challenges holding you back and the one thing you could do turn it around, complete the form below and I’ll be delighted to talk to you further.