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The importance of grounding

The practice of grounding ourselves is about ensuring that our energy is connected to the earth, that it is anchored and providing us with a steady base. This may be something that we feel is done naturally as part of our daily routines, but unfortunately this is not the case.

When we carry on with our busy lives, rushing here and there, with our mind full of thoughts of what we must do and what is the next thing that we will rush into, we are at the behest of our ego mind.  The ego is where our everyday thoughts reside, as well as where our self-protection tendencies are also stored. The ego is an essential part of our nature, but it is the one thing that can also create disassociation with our true selves- the physical and spiritual being that we are. When we become disassociated, we become ungrounded.

We know what it feels like to be ungrounded.  It is the short breaths that we take, that do not go further than our chest area. It is the low-level sense of panic that is our constant companion. It is the feelings of being overwhelmed. It is the restlessness and poor sleeping patterns that develop. And it is the constant tiredness that we feel, even after a good nights rest. This is because stress and anxiety naturally increase when we are ungrounded. So you can see the benefits of practicing this regularly to help you.

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The best image that you can think of to help you, is a tree.  A tree grows forever upward and outward.  Always reaching for the sky to express its best and most beautiful self. Yet a tree knows that is can only continue growing and reaching from a strong firm base. Its roots grow at a similar rate to its upper branches, reaching further and further down and across to support itself.

We can learn to be like the tree and ground ourselves through some simple practices.  If you are a regular meditator, you will already be doing many of these. Here’s one technique ( out of many) that might help you.

A simple practice to anchor your energy

  • Before leaving the house in the morning, stand up in bare feet in a quiet space you will not be disturbed.  Make sure your spine is straight, your shoulders are relaxed and your head feels like it is floating above your shoulder.
  • Take a few centering breaths and when you feel calm, bring your attention to the soles of your feet.
  • Imagine a warm energy moving down from your heart to the soles of your feet.
  • Feel the strong connection that the soles of your feet are making with the gound.
  • Now start to imagine that warm energy travelling though your feet, down into the floor.
  • Imagine it going deeper and deeper into the ground, travelling all the way down to the centre of the earth.
  • When you are fully rooted in the moment, set an intention to be grounded for the rest of the day.  Say to yourself ‘I am anchored in the present moment and will remain so throughout the day.’

At the end of the day, make a note of any changes you felt as a result of the grounding exercise.  Repeat daily. Enjoy.

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Make peace with your body

Humans are the only mammals on the planet that have a negative image of their body.  Nothing else quite demonstrates the madness of our human condition, quite as much as the way that we reject, abuse or ignore our bodily needs.

Think about it for a moment.  An orangutan does not sit and brood at her companions and clan and feel disgruntled that her body is not as lithe or shapely as that of others around her.  A leopard does not sit and mope that his spots are not quite as well spread out as other males in the group.  In fact the idea is quite laughable.  Yet, when we turn the lens our ourselves, we seem to find it perfectly acceptable to compare, contrast and condemn our own body, based on some external notion of what it should be.

If we become disconnected and start looking at our body in negative or fragmented ways, it leads to many difficulties. We start to see our body with a critical eye to its external appearance and how this compares unfavourably to other people. Women in particular are prone to this dissatisfaction with their body due to this external pressure to conform to unrealistic expectations.  Bombarded as we are, by images of thin and under-developed models. When we start to over-identify with these images we become unhappy with ourselves and start to put our body through harsh regimes to try to achieve standards it was never designed to meet.  The thoughts we send to our body are equally negative and punitive; ‘You’re fat’, ‘You’re thin’, You’re ugly’, ‘You’re too tall’, ‘You’re too short’ or perhaps the most defeating of all, ‘You’re not good enough.’  Since our thoughts create our reality, we are allowing ourselves in these moments to create a battlefield between us and our bodies.

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Photo credit: Archishadownlight.com

When we separate our thoughts from our body, we stop listening to its needs.  We start to develop body dysmorphia because we are literally unable to see our body the way it is.  When someone has become extreme in their eating habits, through too much eating, or starving themselves, they have stopped connecting to their body.  The mind and the body are working in two different spheres.

Making peace with our body starts with learning to connect and communicate with it.  Read more here

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3 steps to living a life of intent

goals“Intention is the driving force in our life. It is the fuel of our actions and gives purpose to our goals.  To become intentional and live a life of meaningful action, we need to learn to harness our thoughts and the energy all around us.  If you have tried to make changes in your life but find yourself going around in circles or making little progress, learning how to harness your intent will make all the difference.”

 

There is a power, which we all hold, which allows us to move forward with our goals and plans. It is always with us and available to us whenever we need it. That power is intent and can be accessed through focus, belief and new habits.

It takes intent to live a life of action and to achieve our goals. If you have a burning ambition or goal you want to achieve, try these three steps to help you to move forward with confidence and ease.

1. Believe in yourself
People who struggle to attain success may be holding self-limiting beliefs of what is possible or what they are capable of achieving. Beliefs are often hidden from us, held deeply in our sub conscious mind, related to events that may have occurred many years ago, but had a lasting impact. The messages we receive from people around us such as parents, peers and teachers shape and form our beliefs. We are not always conscious, in our early years, of forming these beliefs about ourselves and the world around us, but they will have a profound impact on how we go forward with our lives for years to come.

The best way we can understand our beliefs is to learn to question what we are thinking on a regular basis. This will give insight into what has been the anchoring force behind our current situation. By asking ourselves questions and writing down the answers, we can understand patterns which are having a profound effect on our life. So if you see yourself reacting to something in a particular way – ask yourself: what is this reaction really about? Where did those thoughts / feelings come from?

Once we have a clearer understanding of our beliefs, we become empowered to change them into new beliefs. And the great news is that changing beliefs can have an instant and profound change on our whole life.

2. Focus on what you want
Observing and changing our beliefs will help to break down barriers to our success. Now we can set about focusing on what we do want.

Change often fails because of a lack of focus on where we are going, and why. How many times have you seen someone leave a situation because they are unhappy, only to find themselves repeating the same pattern again and again? This happens when we only focus on what we want to run away from, but have less clarity on what we want to move towards.

The same is true for those who are constantly focused on the future, sharing big plans that are rarely realized because their feet do not seem to be planted on the ground. They cannot make an accurate assessment of their starting point, to help them navigate the journey to achieve their goals.

We can avoid these pitfalls by holding in our mind a clear understanding of what we want to achieve and where we are starting from. Having a powerful vision is a way of focusing our effort and energy on moving towards something new.

Take a few moments to write down what it is you want to achieve in your life. Make it really clear and descriptive, so you will know when you have achieved it.

When you have written your vision, take a few moments to look at it and breathe deeply as you read it. Feel the emotion in your heart, as if you have already achieved it. Put the statement out somewhere you can see it every day and take a few breaths every time you see it and connect with the emotion in your heart.

3. Create new habits
When we have a clear vision of what we want to achieve, we need to look at how we change our behaviours and habits to allow room for the new reality to emerge. Change will not come from the heavily trodden path we have already followed. It requires us to lift ourselves from the patterns of our life and create new paths and new space for the real magic of change to emerge.

We tend to view habits as ingrained and very difficult to change. The reality is that we can create a new habit at any moment. If we create new habits that give us more pleasure, we are likely to release old and unwanted ones. This is a much gentler and supportive way to bring about change without using a negative or judgmental inner voice, which is often applied to ‘break’ bad habits.

Habits are incredibly easy to create, once you have put your intent and vision behind them. It takes three weeks of daily practice for a new habit to form. This means any area of your life where you are struggling right now, can be turned around in three weeks simply by creating a new habit.

Ask yourself what one thing can you start to do for yourself today, which will make a big difference to you and your life?

Write down your habit and then regularly review your progress over the next 21 days.

Do you have any experiences of making big change in your life that you would like to share? Do leave your comments below. Best of luck with allowing intention to drive your life forward.

For more hints and tips on how to make positive changes to your life visit: www.findyourjoyfullife.com

This is an excerpt from Chapter 4, The Power of Intent in ‘Coming Home to You – A Handbook for Personal Transformation’ by Mary McGuire Available here, independent bookshops  and all online retailers.

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What motivated me to write a book – the birthing of Coming Home to You

It is often said that there is a book in all of us and I am sure that I am no more unique than you in this case.  Coming Home to You: A Handbook for Personal Transformation is not my first book, but it is the first one that will get published, under my own company: The Joyful Press.

There are many reasons why people write a book, but for me it was my desire to share my own healing journey with others, so that they may feel encouraged along their own.

The book deals with major life themes such as:

  • Dealing with Change – and learning to appreciate that change is all around us.
  • Taming the Inner Critic – realising that the constant negative voice in your head is not you and how to tame it.
  • The power of intent – and how to use this to achieve your goals
  • The nature of consciousness – that we can access and use to connect to our own happiness
  • Finding meaningful work – and learning how to put your best foot forward and deal with conflict constructively.

The writing of it was extremely cathartic, as the telling of each theme came with an insight into my own life and my struggles.  It was only when I could see beyond my struggles and realise that there was a deeper more important truth to all of life, that I could access the energy to turn my life turned around.

Healing and harmony are as much about state of mind as they are about our lifestyle choices.  Through my own healing journey, from a meltdown of my immune system in 2008, to the vibrant healthy person I am now, I had to learn how to connect with my inner life and with the energy which is the life force inside of me.  Experiencing this first hand convinced me that many people would want to be able to do the same, and so the motivation for my book was born.

I have made sure that it is practical, as I am a pragmatic person and if I cannot put something into action, how can I expect anyone else to? So I have included practical exercises at the end of each chapter.

I’ll be adding meditations, quizzes and short video insights to this website www.findyourjoyfullife.com in the coming weeks, to share with you.  I’m also collaborating with my good friend Vikki Roberts to bring you some wonderful mindful poems that will help you achieve a calm and wistful state.

I will be sharing details of the book launch parties very soon so watch this space!

Next blog:  The main themes for your transformation journey